Sometimes moving on after a break-up or divorce is difficult.  It's rarely easy unless you're so glad to get out of the situation that you can't wait to make changes and move on.  A break up disrupts your whole life.  Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex.  If you had mutual friends, even going out can be difficult.  

One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you're ready to move on is your family and friends.  If your ex was popular with your family, you're going to get tired of questions about the situation.  You must explain to them that you're moving on, the break-up is history, and you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.  

Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with.  They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you'll get back together.  You can just explain, "Moving on, break up is old news, that's that."  Eventually they'll come around because they're your family and they love you.  It's probably going to be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.

If you didn't have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem.  But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while. Then there's the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with these friends, too.  You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends.  This doesn't mean that it's necessary to break up with your friends.  It's just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.

As difficult as it seems when you are trying to move on, you may have to give up some of those friendships.  You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends.  Just try to maintain good contact and relationships with those you're closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be painful, it's probably easiest on everyone because they don't have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid.

Sometimes the "moving on" period is just too difficult when you're surrounded by mutual friends and so many of the places you used to go to together.  If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people.  Take a vacation with a friend who isn't involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who isn't friends with your ex.  This can help you get some perspective. Once you've declared " I'm moving on", taking some time away from the people, places and situation, can help you a great deal.

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