In nearly all break ups, women are the ones who call it quits.  As you are probably painfully aware by this time in your life that women are irrational creatures.  They don't always say or do what is in their best interest.  Often, within days of a break up, a woman is ready to get back together.  The problem is, she's embarrassed that she made a scene and won't tell you that she'd like to reconcile.  Unless you make a move, you are at a stalemate. The situation being that you are broken up.  So, it is up to you to get your girlfriend back.

To do this, you have to pursue a two pronged approach.  The first thing you have to do is show her that you are desirable.  The second thing is to show her you are available and you want her back.

If there was a core reason for the break up, you need to address that.  For instance, when Scott and Rachel first started going out, he took her to plays and concerts because she really enjoyed the arts.  As they got more settled in their relationship, dates increasingly revolved around his passion for sports.  In fact, after Rachel called the relationship off, Scott realized that they hadn't done an arts event in nearly four months.

Scott realized, that in order to get Rachel back, he had to show her the fun times she had been missing from the relationship.  

Scott didn't bombard Rachel with calls and text messages immediately.  He gave her her space.  A couple weeks after the break up, he casually mentioned that he had two tickets to the symphony and asked whether she would like to go "just as friends".

Rachel jumped at the chance to do something she liked with the man she was still in love with.  Scott and Rachel went to the concert and then he took her to a romantic restaurant where he bought the best bottle of wine on the menu.  Rachel was blown away by the "new" Scott and started hinting that she wouldn't mind restarting the relationship.

At this point, the ball was in Scott's court.  He now had the upper hand and the ability to define how they were going to get back together.  Getting Rachel back meant getting her on his terms.

He told Rachel that he had enjoyed the evening and he looked forward to more just like it.  However, he also enjoyed sports and hoped that if they got back together she would be willing to learn more about sports.  

Because she was in a great mood, she agreed.  The new terms for going forward with the relationship had been set and everyone was happy.

Remember, Rachel broke up with Scott in a fit of pique.  But she didn't really want to end the relationship.  Scott handled everything just right in realizing what was lacking, fixing it, and then proceeding under a new set of rules.

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