When your boyfriend tells you he wants to take a time out from the relationship, you will want to do everything you can to change his mind. The problem may be that you will be doing everything you can to make him think he was right to breakup with you. But if you use the no contact rule to push his hot buttons, you can get your ex boyfriend back now.
You might think that telling him you love him and cannot live without him will push his hot buttons and bring him back. But, you will be pushing him farther away. If he wanted to take time out from the relationship, the best thing you can do is let him have the time he needs. That means using the no contact rule. You need to stay completely out of his life for at least a month.
Don't be tempted to make just one little phone call, send an email or text message. No contact means that you have no contact in any way. The reason this psychological tactic works so well is, he doesn't expect you to do it. He is expecting you to try to get him back and he is all ready to reject you and hurt you some more.
By using the no contact rule, you are giving him no one to reject or hurt. This will push his hot buttons by making him wonder if you care for him anymore. The situation will be shifting and your ex will be the one feeling rejected. Just continue to ignore him and move on with your life. Go out with your friends, have a good time and flirt with some guys.
When he hears about your activities, it will push his hot buttons again by making him see that he might lose you. That was not his intention when he told you he needed a time out. He thought he would be the one having fun and you would be sitting at home waiting for him to call. Your ex boyfriend will wonder how things could have been turned around this way.
That will push another hot button because he will realize he misses you. Your ex will imagine you in the arms of another man and it will set him crazy. Suddenly he will become desperate to see you and tell you he loves you and cannot live without you. All of this might seem like a dream to you now. But it is what can happen if you strictly follow the no contact rule to push his hot buttons.
H L Archer is well versed in the field of romantic relations having helped many people over the years to solve problems of dating, strained marital relations, divorce, dating after divorce and surviving after a relationship breakup. He would like to extend a helpful hand to you and any others that may be struggling with a romantic relationship.
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