When your boyfriend tells you he needs a break, he might also suggest that you remain friends. That might give you hope, because you feel he is not cutting all ties with you. But, you might be better off if he did cut all ties with you. If you accept his offer, it could be walking into a trap. So what should you do when he wants to stay friends but take a break?
When he offers to be friends, you might want to jump at the chance, but your ex boyfriend may have a plan. When a man says he needs a break, it might be that he is taking a gentle way of breaking up with you to lessen your pain. But sometimes he will have another reason and that could be his trap.
Your ex boyfriend thinks that you are still very much in love with him. That will make you want to have him back whenever he chooses. He feels you will sit around and wait for him to call. This allows him to go out and play the field. Do some dating and see what is out there. If he finds someone that appeals to him, he will drop you and have a relationship with her.
If he does not find anything interesting, he will come back to you for a while. This makes you his backup girl friend or safety net. You will be there to catch him when he falls. That makes for a great setup for him, but a rotten one for you. When he says he wants a break, but wants to remain friends tell him no.
Tell him that if he wants to breakup, then make it clean and have it over with. This will take a lot of strength, but you won't be his backup. Then cut off all contact with him. Spend time with your family and do things that interest you. Take up your life where you left it when you began your relationship. This will show your ex boyfriend you can have a life without him.
Next you should think of yourself and get a new hair style and shop for some hot new clothes. When you are looking lovely and desirable go out with friends and have a good time. When you ex hears of this, he will know that you don't intend to hang around moping and waiting for him. It will make him realize that you are the only one for him anyway.
Your ex boyfriend will be wanting to talk things over and if you want him back you should meet him for coffee. You still love him and want him, but you will have to let him know that you do not intend to drop everything you are doing. Make it clear to him that he will have to share a place in your life with your other interests. Most of all let him know that you will be his full time girlfriend or nothing.
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