When minding your friends business is a critical conversation to be discussed and should be addressed immediately.

Ladies, do you think that having your friends in your business when it comes to your relationship with your partner is a wise decision?

I don't think so cause I'm so tired of some of my friends getting in my business when it comes to my reationship with my partner cause your so-called friends will be the first to tell you "girl, he's not the one for you" when in all actuality if your relationship has an undersanding between the two of you and your man is playing M.I.A with you and you let it be known, your friends will be the first one to tell you oh he's no good for you or you could do better when you don't want someone giving you the wrong advice about your relationship when you already know what's good because the same ones that are downplaying the situation really wants your man and just wants to be with him and go all out of their way to throw you under the bus and push you out of the way to get what you have.

Ladies, it's only you that really knows what you've got with your partner, so don't try to throw it all away just because some hateful jealous shrew told you he wasn't the one for you, all you have to do is have a strong belief that your relatioinship will work out and if he is playing M.I.A on you, he might be trying to test you to see if you'll cheat on him or what you will have to do to get back at him for playing(missing in action) or just to see if you will trust him to the fullest.

But in any case; in any relationship, you must always communicate with your man instead of your friends about what's wrong in your relationship or is there a certain feeling in your relationship that you feel should be fixed and to tell you the truth, it should always be that way.

Now I'm not saying don't factor your friends in your relationship or have a girls night out to discuss problems wth trouble in paradise, but certain things and topics for discussion should be left at home instead of airing out your dirty laundry to your friends cause at the end of the day, they will throw salt in the game and say oh girl, he's not worth it. I told you he was a dog. But in your mind, should you listen to your friends and allow them to get in your reationship? heck no, cause as i mentioned before, the same ones that say he's a dog, they're the same ones who are trying to to ease their way into blowing your man behind closed doors and use it against you in a mnor agrument but overall, if it's one of your true friends who are really trying to tell you without any jealousy, then you're lucky.

But truthfully, i'd say don't tell anyone about your relationship problems cause you really don't want to make the mistake of having your business in the streets and have everyone knowing what's going on inside your bedroom, then that would really piss your man off and will be grounds for break up.

I know cause I speak  from experience and I've made that mistake and my man was mad at me for a very long time and till this day, he's still mad but I won't do it again but overall, I have faith in our relationship and I know that the love is so real but there's only one thing, I have a problem with, is his stupid best friend is a basically a stupid broad who's unattaractive and looks like a sabre tooth tiger that's in my way and she's so fake and I know she's in love with him and it's obvious that she can't have him and if she does touch him, there will be a lot of humiliation coming along her way. But at the same time, he tells me what it is and tells me I'm the one and I believe him.

You see, I trust him, but not her because at the end of the day she's only talking about me behind my back cause she wants him and he only wants me. But with that being said and done. I'm not going to air out my dirty laundry to my so called friends because that's my personal business and if I do tell my friends, they will make it seem bigger than what it is and will want to beat up the poor girl and I don't want that, so therefore I'll handle my own business and will bring it to his attention ASAP and if he doesn't like what I have to say, then it is what it is. But I refuse to have anybody in my business.

So therefore, the only person that will find out is his family members if they ask me if their was anything wrong with the two of us and still that's bad enough to let them know what goes on behind cosed doors. But what I'm getting at it; handle your business and avoid the negative talk about your relationships to your friends who aren't going to do anything but tell you to leave the love of your life when he might be the one!

So therefore ladies follow your heart  if you're feeling a certain way about your relationship cause your friends don't always know best. But when it comes to matters of the heart, go with your instincts and communicate with your man.

Published author/writer. A writer of urban tales and fiction.

Look out for The Silent Partner; Part 2 in 2011.