Are you in a new relationship? Or have you been married for twenty years? It might seem shocking if I suggest that the base core of your relationship may not be love at all but dependency. Of course, if your relationship truly is not based on love, I'm sure you already know it- your relationship will not be happy. And, even if your relationship is essentially a dependent one, it is probably true as well that you harbor genuine love for your partner as well. If things start to go sour in your relationship because of your mutual neediness, you can nurture that fundamental love to repair things.
When someone says, "I need you," it can mean several things. Hopefully, the meaning is intended as 'my life feels completed being with you.' But it could also mean that 'I am needy, weak, and lonesome, and you're the best that I can do.' Now I understand that sounds very harsh, but it's also quite common.
I don't know anyone who isn't lonely at times. Most everyone is in fact lonely to some degree a great deal of the time. I know I am. I really like to have people in my life to share friendship with and I would be very lonely without them. I'm no hermit.
I think romance is a wonderful thing, though I must say that these days I'm more concerned with my children and the kind of extraordinary love that goes along with nurturing a child than I am with anything romantic. In any case, romance is a great way to kick off a relationship, and a very important thing to maintain to some degree in a twenty year old marriage. But romance cannot be a foundation for anything, only love can. And to hold on to someone strictly out of neediness and self-pity is not love; it is pure neurosis. This is why we divorce each other left and right.
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