There's one mistake I see made by a lot of guys when taking a girl on that first date. These are guys that had it all - the looks, the confidence, the experience with women. Time and time again though I saw them dumped after the first date. After letting loose with their wit and charm, I thought there is no way the women can resist, but in the end the women did resist, ditched the guys and went out with me instead.

What happened? How could such confident, experienced, good looking guys fail to keep the girls and yet someone like me (who I'll admit did fall short in these particular areas) can succeed? It's all down to patience. These men failed because they went on the charm offensive and piled it on too strong and too fast. Their neediness to have a girlfriend showed completely, and women have a knack of sensing this. When they do, they get turned off immediately.

In the beginning, girls just want to have fun. Hey, even a song was written about it! Don't start piling on the affection and getting all serious too early. Just go out and have a good time and a laugh. Otherwise you'll come across as desperate and your date will be doing a Flo-Jo in the opposite direction. Let me clear something up. Patience is not a sign of weakness. Patience is not inaction, nor the sign of someone who dare not "pluck up the courage". Patience is being able to control your eagerness.

A woman must feel comfortable and secure around you before any intimacy can begin, and she's not going to get this feeling if you are acting like a ravenous shark going in for the kill.

So, my advice for your first date is simple. If you really want to keep a girl wanting more, don't take those initial dates so seriously. Concentrate on making them fun and have a little patience.