Going through a breakup is pretty sucky...there are few things that feel as bad as being alone, especially when just so recently you weren't alone at all, but with someone you loved. Well, if you had the chance to stop being alone, to get back together with your ex, would you take it? Even if it meant making some sacrifices and compromises, would you do it? If your answer is yes, I have a few tips for you to make the process a bit easier.

1) DON'T swamp your ex with attention. Calling every day, leaving a bunch of messages on their voicemail, sending countless text messages or emails...all this is going to do is make the person absolutely sick of you. Giving your ex a little space and time to pull back together is a great way to let him or her actually have time to miss you. If you just keep harassing your ex (and that's what it boils down to - harassment or even stalking), you'll never be able to move past the "mad at you" stage into the "I miss you" stage.

2) DO get out of the house. Sitting around crying all day isn't the best use of your "downtime." Get up, get out. Go out with some friends, see a fun movie...just don't forget to live your life. While you're out there, you may even meet someone else, and if not, it'll still show your ex that your every waking breath doesn't depend on them. This helps a lot because being completely dependant on our ex to survive is just going to make him or her see you as the loser you're being by not spending your time constructively and simply pining for your lost love. If you get up and get out, you'll find that you not only become happier, but you become more attractive.

3) DO figure out what the problems were that caused the breakup, and work as hard as you can on fixing them. Specifically, I'm talking about what problems were about YOU. Obviously if your ex wanted to break up with you, there was a reason for it and it probably had something to do with you. "It's not you, it's me" is a lie...it's always you. If you really work on the reasons WHY it's you, it can stop being you and start being a healthy relationship. Sacrifice and compromise are key in having a happy relationship, so don't be afraid of making a few changes to yourself, large or small.

4) DON'T jump back too quickly into relationship talks once you get back in contact with your ex. In the beginning, there is simply a sort of "sympathy." When you first contact your ex, it should be about how they've been doing, and when you first start spending time with your ex it should be about just having fun. Do things you both used to really enjoy doing together, it helps to remind your ex of what you two used to share, and he or she will probably start to miss it.

5) DON'T play silly games with your ex. Remember, you dated this person before...he or she knows your tricks. They may have worked the first time around, but that doesn't mean they'll work the second time. If anything, it could give the wrong idea that you haven't changed a bit since those times, and that'll work against you. Remember, you're a new person...act like one...but of course continue to be yourself. Confused? Good, you should be. Relationships are crazy.

So there are a few tips for you. This is by no means the bottom line definitive work on getting your ex back, but it'll give you a boost and probably help out quite a bit. And if you're really serious about getting back together with your ex, the site below can help you a lot more than I can.

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