Hmm, stop fear by readjusting my thoughts…I hear you thinking. Yes you can because all fear is only a frame of mind. I know it comes across as though I’m callous and uncaring. I know about fear, real fear and the imagined fear. The fear of being a social failure, not having enough money, getting fat and fear of my kids getting tattooed or pierced.

I mean really…firstly I can control what my kids do now – they know they daren’t come home with any face piercing, I know this may seem awfully square to many and off the point because we are talking about how to stop fear here. But believe me that is one of those uncalled for fears. Firstly the law doesn’t permit them to get a piercing, well in my country anyway until they are 14 so I can put off my fear till next year.

Seriously though there is nothing I can do about it and if I analyse my fear am I fearing for their safety? No I’m sure any piercer worth his/her salt knows what they are doing and wouldn’t cause any damage. Besides I trust my children enough to know that they will have the wisdom to look for a decent piercer should it ever come to that. So what am I fearing?

On a closer look I’m fearing to come across socially as a bad parent because my children are pierced. Do you see where I’m getting at here? I could be messing up my own life by fearing what others do and think. This is a huge problem. Apparently many people have fears. Fear of being stuck in a lift – I’ll admit the idea isn’t particularly nice. I wouldn’t want to be stuck in a lift but if I think about a second time it will be highly unlikely that I’ll be stuck in a lift because generally the lifts are in good working order. If a lift does get stuck in a high building I suspect someone will sort out quite quickly especially if it’s in a busy building.

Or how about fear of flying? Now I fly quite a lot because I have friends and family all over the globe. I don’t really care much for flying and I did used to have a fear of flying. I would get nervous 2 weeks before I had to fly and then to expand on my fear, the TV and papers were full of a plane crash that had happened.

One of my other petty fears was arriving too late for my appointments. Trust me when I tell you I’ll be on time. I had a fear of being too late at the airport and train station. I drove my family nuts by insisting we leave for the airport in the morning when my plane only left in the evening. I’ve never missed a plain, train or appointment.

Fear can be a good thing, it’s our protection mechanism that stops us from doing crazy things like jumping out the window or crossing the road when the light is red. Fear makes you cautious but fear can also make your life a misery.

You can spend hours at the shrink talking about all your fears and having the good doctor ask you questions and give you lengthy analyses of what you’re fearing. Watching Monk is funny but being Monk must be awful.

There’s an easy way to stop fear feelings. You have to decide that you’re not prepared to live in a fear state anymore and be prepared to take the action that will help you release those feelings. I did it with subliminal CD’s, not quite subliminal – non of that listening to ocean waves and wondering if there were actual messages under the water sounds.

Releasing statements like, “I am free of images of past and future failure, tragedy and loss”. And, “I’m free of all fear of ridicule, of judgement from others and of criticism.”

Then afterwards giving myself installing statements like, “I habitually visualise happy outcomes in all areas of my life.”

Listen to that enough times and you will stop fear in all areas of your life. Remember school? They made you repeat things over and over so it would stay inside you. Well it’s the same and once you’re instilled with the right beliefs you’ll just find all your old fears dissolving away. The beauty is you can do it without spending your hard earned cash at the doctor. You just got to recognise that you have fears and want to get rid of them, especially if you know it’s stopping you from living in all your glory.