Dealing With The Worst Effects Of Divorce
Divorce is very common today; people think they know all about it. The fact is that you do not really think or anticipate the effects of divorce until you are going through it. It catches you completely unprepared.
The Worst You Can Expect
People going through a bad marriage focus on the positive outcome from the divorce such as freedom to live as they want, peace in the home, ability to regain their lost identity, escape from an abusive spouse and so on. These are the positive aspects of divorce. You need to be aware that there are negative effects of divorce, too.
The first thing you should consider is your finances. If both spouses were working before the divorce, the living standards would definitely be different than when you would be the sole earning member. There would be a definite change in money flow and you should be prepared for it. This is one of the most important effects of divorce which you need to know about.
In case you are the homemaker and have no income other than your husband's salary it would be good if you enlist the support of your family or close friends during the divorce until the spousal support is awarded by the court. Without a definite source of income, it will be very difficult for you to fight the divorce case effectively.
Another very important aspect of divorce is the impact it has on the children. It has often been observed that the effects of divorce on children are very traumatic. Ideally, both parents need to consult each other and come to a consensus on how the children are handled during the process. In case of disagreement, the best would be to keep the arguments and remonstrations at the minimum in front of the children.
Whatever the grounds for divorce, children should be always reassured that they are loved dearly by both parents. Ideally, both parents should have access to the children and they should be allowed to move freely between them. However, in cases where custody is given to one of the parents and he or she does not want them to meet the other, the children need the circumstances very patiently explained, keeping the tainting of the "guilty" parent at the minimum.
Yet another negative effect of divorce is your fear starts again; your fear to get emotionally involved again. The best advice here is to take it one step at a time, which means you should always be open to the opportunity of finding the right person. After all, what is life without hope?
