Adoptions: How Society Views It
When one speaks of adoptions, varied perceptions will then be heard. Each person feels differently about the subject, more like basing from his or her own personal experiences. In the society today, lots of assumptions are encountered about adoptions that were already around from previous generations. There are positive and negative feedbacks. The positive dealt on adoption beneficial on both the adoptive parents and the adopted child. On the contrary, negative perceptions talked on the bond between the child and foster parents is lesser or weaker as compared to the biological tie; and adolescent behaviors on the child are said to be the results of the trauma of being adopted. These ideas were already around since the 1920's and some of the assumptions were even older. What has not essentially changed is the tendency to safely typecast adoptions, regardless of being positive or negative.
Early on, adoptions by people with no blood relation to the adopted child was considered informal and could be motivated by economic and practical concerns such as providing a home to an orphan to get an extra hand around the farm or home. However, this mindset subsided in the later part of the nineteenth century and found to be unusual these days. Childhood mortality also substantially declined, along with another adoption motivation like the aspiration to "replace" a lost or dead biological daughter or son. By now, more and more people are viewing adoptions in a more utilitarian way than how it was before.
The decision in adopting someone else's child is tough. It is difficult to raise somebody you may not know from whom. The fact that you are taking in a child, welcoming him or her into your home and is from another culture, or race, or from another nationality makes it all the more harder. Nevertheless, thousands of couples and individuals are into adoptions and they are blessed with their decisions. These people who openly welcome an innocent stranger into their homes have various reasons for doing it. But whatever these reasons are, the fact remains that adoptive parents provide something these orphans deserve to have: a family and a home they can call their own.
International adoptions, or those who want to adopt children from other countries or nationalities may wait for about a year or a little more. It may sounds like a long wait, but it will be worth it once you have the child with you. Since many people are on the same league with you, wanting to adopt a child, certain things and requirements must be complied first accordingly. Couples without children are given the top priority, and all the more those with infertility problems.
In some countries and areas, adoptions procedures are very strict. Like people between 25-35 years old, healthy and have spouses are more likely to be granted with their adoption requests. Also, birth moms giving up their child are given the options to choose the kind of persons or parents their child will grow up with. Married couples, not old and with college education, good paying job and living an active life are most preferred. This is understandable for even if these children are given up for adoptions, still, every mother wants the best for their baby.
On the other hand, other countries are not so narrow-minded in dealing with adoptions. In such countries, one is allowed to have many adopted children that he or she wants, even if single and no large income. Just as long as you have the ability to truly care and love a given child, and can raise him or her in a nice home, social services will be willing to let you try and will give you the chance to prove your worth to be a parent or parents.
It is no joke to adopt a child. Great responsibility comes with the decision of taking in someone totally not your own. As you take part into the sensitive issue of adoptions, be ready to open up yourself to a child that can be out of your league, someone out of your race and culture. Embrace him or her as if he or she is your own. Shower your "gift" with the unconditional love he or she could not possibly imagine of having. Together, you build a family of harmony and blissfulness.
