Preparing for a reunion with your birthparents
Do you think it's time to start looking for your birthparents? Are you prepared for the ensuing drama of a reunion? Many adopted children will even once in their lifetime attempt to search for their birthparents and long to find their origin as well as heritage. The one sure thing when looking for birthparents is to make sure you are prepared for the feelings that can evoke during the reunion.
The effect of adoption on the adopted child and both the biological and adoptive parent are almost the same. However, if you feel that your life will not be complete without knowing who your biological parents are then the decision rests on you.
Meeting your birthparents can conjure mixed feelings of happiness, guilt, shame, remorse, and confusion which can lead to depression should it progress further. For the adopted child, a reunion can spark an inquiry for unanswered questions to the birthparents, which they may be asking to themselves as well. Questions like what were the reasons for deciding to give up a child for adoption many years ago might resurface. And, probably, biological parents might even feel remorseful about the decision and so the sadness never ceases even after reunion.
What to expect
It's best to keep yourself prepared for the worst emotional turmoil that could happen once you finally meet your birthparents. Most of all, prepare yourself to forgive your biological parents for giving you up for adoption. It might seem like the most unforgivable doing in the world but your birthparents put you up for adoption because it was what they thought would be for your best interests as an infant.
Looking for your birthparents is not easy, and at times, the task is like looking for a needle in a haystack. But be inspired by others who successfully met their biological parents even if it took them many years. The quest is even more challenging when your birthparents live in another country.
Where to look for your birthparents
The adoption agency that facilitated in your adoption is the best place to begin looking. Don't hesitate to ask for help from your adoptive parents as they have more information or perhaps photos of your biological parents than any one else. If you know the original address of your birthparents, you can also begin from there and ask around their neighborhood.
A strong determination is necessary if you want to be reunited with your birthparents. Reunion itself, however, might be emotionally overbearing than the search itself.
